Recently I read this interview of a Bengali actress who has in the recent past shifted her base from Calcutta to Mumbai, divorced her 1st husband and is presently living with a much younger man. I know nothing is new about this phenomenon; it’s called the cougar behavior, and is presently becoming a trend with older and bolder women of new age. What struck me was where she mentioned that she had to take and make real effort towards living her life only for herself; in fact she said that the reason she is with the younger guy is because for the first time in her life there was this other person who consciously made her his priority.
Somehow that was refreshing cause most Indian women don’t priorities their own lives, usually the child or the husband comes first and only when she becomes the mother in law she expects that her daughter in law should put her first rather than herself completing this vicious circle.
If truth were told most of us would rather receive than give, but then you can merely be content and satisfied when you get but you are truly happy only when you can and do give willingly.
On further pondering over the interview I realized that Love, Marriage, Motherhood these are windows that provide us with an opportunity to give, and yes we are willing, at least initially cause guess what ‘Love is always about giving’. But the problem with giving is that we always expect something back and quite naturally so, and when our expectations are not met that’s when we are disappointed and unhappy.
So how does one cope with this dilemma?
I am not absolutely sure, infact I don’t know how and where life stands without ‘expectations’. I slept on that for a while and discovered that may be if we counter expectations with faith; there might lay a narrow path towards salvation.
It is the faith that there will always be returns. It might not be from the familiar place, where our expectation lies but from other shores that we may not be even aware of.
Any other suggestions and comments are greatly welcomed